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A Simple Tool in Obtaining Clarity

My experience taught me that obtaining clarity saves a lot of time doing unnecessary work and a lot of frustrating feelings that can lead even to quitting on our dreams.

I remember Jim Rohn used to say “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”

I would know that. I conducted most of my life until few years ago without any clarity on what I wanted to do with it or on what my meaning was. I kept taking directions from anyone – family, friends, boss – I let myself be led by others until I realized that not only I had no plan for my life, but also other people had “serious plans” with me.

Because of the lack of clarity, I experience a lot of frustrating moments, felt unworthy, unfulfilled. Decisions were hard to take. My marriage was suffering.

Successful people fascinated me and I was reading about their everyday habits. That got my interest in productivity habits and I studied a bit. Among the habits of the successful people, one of them got my attention – writing. Writing goals in particular.

So, I started practicing writing. At the beginning, I felt stuck – I didn’t seem to have goals…hold it! I did have goals. I just couldn’t make the connection between what I used to think of as dreams or daily objectives and the “goals worth writing down”.

And because nothing happens without a reason that was a time when a friend of mine became my coach. He taught me how to write my goals.

I began first by writing my daily activities – sort of a daily plan. That helped me a great deal with my work. I managed to finish tasks I was delaying and re-scheduling over and over.

Then, I started writing about my dreams. Little by little, I developed those dreams, splitting them into actions and eventually I really started working on them. Pretty soon, writing became the tool I applied in any tangled situation.

A while ago I attended a super webinar on mental and emotional clarity. One of the tools on the webinar was based was a kind of free writing. Writing from the heart, writing anything that goes into your mind and then letting go of your conscious mind and putting your emotions on paper.

I’ve done this too and it helps taking out emotions you were not aware you had. Seeing them on paper makes it real and it helps you deal with them. It’s a way of letting go of the tension, resentment, fear … all kinds of negative feelings.

Besides obtaining emotional clarity, writing is a way of putting an order into your mind. It’s like cleaning your mental clutter. At least, that’s what it was for me. It helped me sort out ideas; make little drawers for each one, so that afterwards I could analyze each of them.

Writing helped me bring my goals into my reality to be able to work toward them.

It’s a proven fact that writing shapes ideas. It’s the first contact an idea has with the real world. Seeing something written down makes it closer to realization.

Just like Walt Disney said “If you can dream it, you can do it.”, I also believe that if you can write down your dream, you make it clear in your mind and that’s the first step in achieving it.

Writing is a simple and easy to use tool. There are no rules to it. You can start with as little as 10 minutes a day. I’m a morning person and I would advise to do it in the morning when you are not “intoxicated” with the usual daily activities, energies.

Don’t worry if you don’t seem to be coherent in your thoughts at first. Be patient and consistent. One day you will notice that your scattered thoughts come together.

Give it a try!

Posted by Roxana on Jan.18 2015

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    • Dear Super Mom Ale,

      The video is the best illustration of a mother’s job! Thank you!
      To you and all mothers: wish you a life full of joy, love and happy children!
      Keep your comments coming, we are so eager to hear from you.

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